Insights

Aftercare is often associated with kink, but the need for post-intimacy care is integral in all intimate encounters. This insight covers why emotional and physical care after vulnerable experiences matters for everyone, offering practical guidance for creating spaces where people feel truly held.

Working as an intimacy provider has taught me profound lessons about human nature. From universal shame to the healing power of presence, these insights about vulnerability, connection and our shared humanity matter far beyond sex work.

Porn has become the default sex education for millions, but it was never meant to be a how-to guide. This piece explores how adult content shapes our expectations, where it diverges from reality and how to recalibrate your understanding of real-life intimacy.

Physical touch means different things to different people. Understanding whether you connect through receiving, giving, playful energy, mindful presence or erotic desire can transform how you communicate your needs and navigate mismatches with intimate partners.

Growing up I learned what signals masculinity and earns respect from other men. I played out this pattern for decades without realising it was performance. Witnessing authentic masculine expression in other men ultimately set me on an entirely different path.

Female pleasure is wonderfully individual, yet there is barely any education on it. My insight below dispels damaging myths about arousal, explores responsive desire patterns and offers shame-free insights into what actually works for different bodies.

After years in this profession, I've learnt that the most transformative encounters aren't necessarily the most elaborate or adventurous. They're the ones where someone feels genuinely safe to be themselves. When the weight of performing or hiding falls away and someone allows themselves to simply exist as they are, knowing that they will be seen with warmth and care.

Our culture has created a touch famine, leaving adults starved for nurturing, non-sexual physical contact. Experiences like cuddling, gentle stroking and being held provide essential emotional comfort and nervous system regulation that could transform our approach to human connection and wellbeing.

Desire emerges in unexpected contexts, shaped by the unique chemistry between people and energies present. What feels natural in one situation may not translate to another. Understanding ourselves requires embracing this complexity rather than forcing experiences to fit under traditional labels.

Sex work can be a path to genuine empowerment, offering financial independence, personal growth, and reclaiming sexuality from shame. This firsthand account shows how choosing intimate work consciously builds confidence, boundaries, and emotional intelligence while challenging limiting narratives.

The reasons people seek professional intimate services are far more complex than stereotypes suggest, ranging from education and healing to exploration and connection. Moving beyond judgment reveals that sex work often serves as specialised support for sexuality and personal growth.

Human attraction is complex and nuanced, rarely fitting neatly into the simple categories we've been given for sexual orientation. Understanding this beautiful spectrum helps us honor our authentic selves rather than forcing ourselves into boxes that may not truly fit.

Jealousy is a completely normal human emotion that serves as our nervous system's alarm about perceived threats to connections we value. Learning to process it with curiosity rather than shame can actually strengthen relationships by providing valuable information about our needs and boundaries.

Sexual shame is a deep belief that there's something fundamentally wrong with our sexual selves, affecting how we connect with others and whether we believe we deserve pleasure. Breaking free requires recognizing that those inherited messages about sexuality were opinions, not facts, and we get to write our own story.

While we often use these terms interchangeably, sex, sexuality, and intimacy are three distinct elements of human connection. Recognizing their differences gives you a practical toolkit for creating deeper, more fulfilling relationships.