Creating space for authenticity
I didn’t stumble into this work by accident. My fascination with human connection, psychology and the ways we heal ourselves through growth work and relationships began long before I became an escort.
Over the years, I’ve explored various approaches to personal growth, from mindfulness practices to somatic work, from shadow exploration to sitting with deeply uncomfortable truths. I have studied a plethora of psychology modalities including Internal Family Systems (IFS or Parts Work), Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) and hypnotherapy.
Each experience has deepened my understanding of how we heal and grow, and I have come a very long way on my own journey. Looking back, you wouldn’t recognise me. I am deeply proud of how far I have come and where I stand today, as it has allowed me to create a beautiful life full of gratitude, and given me the ability to help others along the way. Experiencing this growth and transformation first-hand has deeply inspired me to offer things to other people that I myself did not have access to in the past.
What I’ve discovered is that our sexuality and our deeper selves are not entirely separate territories. When we feel safe to explore our authentic desires and curiosities, even our fears, we often unlock an understanding about ourselves that extends far beyond the physical realm.
This involves bringing genuine curiosity and awareness into every interaction, creating space where exploration happens without agenda or expectation. I’ve watched this unfold in countless ways. Sometimes it’s a person discovering they actually enjoy being vulnerable after years of believing they had to be strong all the time. Other times it’s witnessing somebody reconnect with pleasure after trauma had disconnected them from their body and essence.
Creating a safe space requires presence, genuine care, communication and the willingness to meet someone exactly where they are without trying to fix or change them.
The values that are integral to me
Kindness sits at the foundation of how I approach my work. Not polite, surface level kind of kindness that we experience out on the street, but the deep compassion that recognises the tender human beneath whatever armour we wear. Because we all wear armour of some kind, whether we’re conscious of it or not. I’ve learnt that kindness doesn’t mean being nice or agreeable all the time. Sometimes it means being honest about boundaries or gently challenging assumptions that keep someone stuck.
Authenticity means I show up as myself, complete with quirks and genuine opinions and feelings. When I’m real, it gives others permission to be real too. I don’t pretend to have all the answers or present a polished version of myself that doesn’t actually exist. Some days I’m playful, quirky and energetic, other days I’m quieter and more contemplative. This range of being human is exactly what allows genuine connection.
Playfulness can be a huge part of meaningful experiences, it doesn’t always need to be heavy or serious. Some of our most profound moments happen through laughter and spontaneity. I’ve had encounters where we’ve spent half the time laughing about something silly before moving into deeper intimacy, and that lightness made everything that followed feel more safe and easeful.
Integrity is essential and one of my highest values. Respect for boundaries, for consent and for the vulnerability being shared, these aren’t negotiable. This extends beyond the obvious elements of safer practices and clear communication. To me, this is about honouring the trust someone places in me by being consistent, reliable and genuinely committed to their wellbeing.
Honesty builds the trust necessary for genuine intimacy. This includes being truthful about my own limits and experiences. If something doesn’t feel right or I’m not the best fit for what a client is seeking, I’ll say so. That honesty creates the foundation for everything else to flourish.
Adventure keeps us curious about what becomes possible when we step outside familiar territory together. This doesn’t always mean elaborate scenarios or pushing boundaries in dramatic ways. Sometimes adventure is simply being willing to try something new, to be curious about an unfamiliar sensation or to explore a part of yourself you might be a little anxious or curious about.
What moves me
The moments that touch me deepest are when someone realises they are worthy despite their flaws, traumas or quirks. They are human. Beautifully, deliciously, complexly, wildly human! In our time together, people get to be themselves fully. Their desires, their questions, their vulnerabilities, their playfulness! All of it is welcome.
We may have a deep conversation that flows into revelations. I’ve had gorgeous exchanges about relationships, intimacy, life transitions and everything in between. These conversations often illuminate patterns or possibilities the person hadn’t previously considered, and allow them to open up a larger part of the map in their mind.
Sometimes physical exploration can help a person reconnect with their own body. I’ve worked with people who haven’t been touched tenderly in years, with others recovering from relationship breakdowns, with people exploring their sexuality for the first time or rediscovering it after significant life changes. Often both conversation and physical connection weave together in ways that honour the full spectrum of human experience, and I absolutely live for this!
We live in a world with so many messages about what desire should look like, what’s acceptable to want and how we’re supposed to behave. When a person allows those conditioned expectations to fall away and connect in with their genuine desires, there’s a palpable shift in them that is absolutely divine.
How this can impact the rest of your life
One of the most exciting aspects of this kind of real connection is how it extends into the “day to day” world. When someone experiences unconditional acceptance and genuine curiosity about who they are, something generally moves in them. I find they may start working on compassion and kindness for themselves. They may discover boundaries they didn’t know they needed. They can also find courage to be more honest in their other relationships and take care of themselves better.
I’ve had clients tell me that our encounters helped them finally have difficult conversations with partners, gave them confidence to pursue desires they’d been suppressing and even helped them feel more comfortable in their own body and mind. This isn’t because I have magical powers or special knowledge (although I do feel like I am witnessing alchemy at times). This is usually because experiencing acceptance and genuine connection can help guide a person towards the truest self that is hiding inside of them.
This is truly why I love what I do. It’s not just about the encounter itself. It’s about witnessing somebody realise they’re worthy of being truly seen and accepted exactly as they are and watching them carry that realisation forward into their lives.
I’ve also noticed that when people experience authentic connection, they often become more curious about others. They start asking better questions, listening more deeply and creating their own spaces of acceptance for the people around them. The impact multiplies in ways I never anticipated when I first entered this work.
Learning to listen deeply
One of my favourite skills is the ability to listen beneath the actual words I’m heading. Often what is initially expressed as their desire or intention isn’t quite the full picture. There might be deeper yearnings or unspoken needs sitting underneath, and they may feel too scary or vulnerable to look at and access.
I’m not suggesting I know better than clients about what they want. I’ve just learnt to create a space where those deeper truths can emerge naturally. Sometimes through gentle questions, sometimes through simply being present and allowing silence, sometimes through offering observations without attachment to being right about them.
This kind of listening requires genuine curiosity and the willingness to be surprised. When I approach each person as a unique individual rather than assuming I know what they need based on initial impressions, magic actually happens. People reveal themselves in ways that wouldn’t be possible if I had already decided who they were or what they wanted.
An invitation
Whether we ever meet or not, please know that you deserve spaces where you can be completely yourself. You deserve relationships built on genuine curiosity and acceptance. You deserve to explore who you are without shame.
The journey of discovering ourselves is ongoing, and it’s meant to be shared. We are deeply social creatures by nature. In whatever form that sharing takes in your life, I hope you find the courage to show up authentically and the joy that comes from connecting deeply with others and most importantly, yourself.
If this resonates with you, ask yourself these questions. What does authentic connection look like in your life? What values guide how you approach intimacy and growth? What has your journey of self discovery taught you about what you truly need and desire? Sitting with these questions can result in more self discovery, which is a win all round.
Love,
Evie xo